In the continuing saga relating my three-year long working life in Brussels (based on the movie, If It’s Tuesday, This Must be Belgium), just getting there was a chore. I’ve mentioned the bureaucratic process I had to go through before they would let me move, but when the actual move got closer I realized that all my townhouse stuff was in no way going to fit into whatever apartment I might find in Brussels. This revelation led me to wonder:
Whose stuff is this anyway?
I blame all of my stuff on my parents (which is some sort of Freudian thing I’m sure). My mother was one of 9 children, and my dad was one of 12 children. They were both born during hard times into blue collar families (assuming that a 2-acre subsistence farm serving 14 people even rises to the level of blue collar). Growing up in families the size of small Midwestern towns led to the tendency to hoard everything passing their way. And in positive proof that clutter is hereditary, I followed suit…or at least it seems that way at this moment as my eyes scan the mountain of stuff on which I have to make “keep” or “go” decisions.
Keeping in mind that I have a decent sized 3 bedroom townhouse full of “American male” furniture (i.e., big) that likely won’t fit into the tiny European-sized apartments, it seems that my first step is to separate stuff into several categories:
1) Stuff that I should have thrown out ages ago (old magazines, holey clothes, and anything left behind by old girlfriends)
2) Stuff that can be donated to charity or given away to friends (perfectly good clothes from the back of the closet that “I know I will fit into again some day”)
3) Stuff that can be freecycled or sold on eBay or Craigslist (books, records, chachkas)
4) Stuff that I want to keep but can’t take with me due to lack of room and so will likely have to put into storage (king size bed set with dressers and side tables, couches, my Abraham Lincoln book collection)
5) Stuff that my company will ship to Europe for me (some furniture, some books, PhD stuff, and of course all my work stuff)
The hard part is deciding what fits into the first category – stuff to be thrown out. It’s hard for me to throw out things because I see it as wasteful…surely someone can find a good use for each (seemingly) precious item.
So how do I let go of all my “valuable” stuff? I addressed this problem in a recent post called “The Minimalist” on my writing blog, Hot White Snow. I’ll have more on how to deal with stuff in later posts.
David J. Kent is the author of Tesla: The Wizard of Electricity and Edison: The Inventor of the Modern World (both Fall River Press). He has also written two e-books: Nikola Tesla: Renewable Energy Ahead of Its Time and Abraham Lincoln and Nikola Tesla: Connected by Fate. His next book, Lincoln: The Man Who Saved America, is scheduled for release in summer 2017.
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As one who downsized and moved across country twice then downsided again and moved across the Atlantic in the recent past, And I can concur that it is (after the fact) a freeing experience. The challenge then is to remain downsized,
In Lincoln books alone, I have failed that challenge. 🙂
Every time I move (and I do it as little as possible) I give away/throw away a ton of stuff. Like, literally a ton. Then I take what I deemed essential to the new place an throw some of it away after I’ve unpacked it.
I don’t think I’m very good at this.
Getting rid of the stuff seems to work for you.
How do I let go of all my “valuable” stuff? That’s my problem.
It’s a big problem. Still trying to figure out how to have more outgoing than incoming.
I can periodically get myself deeply into that category-1 frame of mind. However, I have to tape the boxes of condemned goods closed so that I can’t look at them again.
I’m trying to picture you in a 20 square-meter, downtown Tokyo apartment. It isn’t working.
「(・_・;)
I should try the tape. I have boxes that I’ve opened and closed a dozen times, and still they remain.
I suspect you’re right about the tiny apartment. 🙂